It is amazing to come across people who have charisma, confidence and the right words to handle any situation. I sat with a very successful lady who not only has achieved high financial level but also owns 9 businesses and employs over six thousand people. Her leadership skills are sought after and her employees seem to speak highly about how well they are treated and how devoted they are to their company. I was fortunate to meet Pearl Hoover at the library and she shared the following tips:

  1. Self-Confidence

Self-confident raises the bar in every situation. It brings a level of energy that asserts your presence and trust and the ability to solve problems. It gives humility and a sense of control in any situation. Researchers showed that confidence is more dominant in establishing trust than past performance. Charismatic people brighten a room with confidence when they walk in and speak.

  1. When they listen, they do listen

Charismatic people make others feel valued and important. They give their full attention to others when they are having a conversation. They are attentive and really listen. They don’t listen while looking on their phone for instance, or pretending to listen. They give an undivided attention to others and validate them. They ask probing questions, maintain eye contact, smile, and respond. Verbal or nonverbal cues, are some of the things they do actively.

“Charisma is not just saying hello. It’s dropping what you’re doing to say hello.” – Robert Brault

  1. Give it all

Charismatic people tend to be quite passionate about what they believe in. This passion motivates people around them to act.

For example, if you have a friend who is always critical about everyone, you’ll soon find yourself to be critical of other people. Likewise, being around someone who’s passionate and optimistic is likely to inspire you to think and behave that way also.

  1. Open your vibration circle

“If I were uptight, closed up, you would not say Hi while walking by me and we wouldn’t be having this conversation right now”. Pearl said.  It is necessary to open your vibration circle and to allow others to approach you. Be approachable and receptive to other people.

Charismatic people are often seen as warm and approachable. Most people would rather get to trust and get closer to you if they perceive you to be warm.

  1. Don’t be self-centered

Bring your ego down a little bit. You are not the only knowledgeable and important person in the room. Be relatable, simple and down to earth.

  1. What is your purpose?

Have a clear vision of what you want and move your energy and take action toward it. Don’t be a generality.

  1. Have a genuine interest in others

Not only will people who are drawn to you appreciate your praise, but they will also appreciate the fact that you pay attention to what they’re doing. It brings a sense of accomplishment to them. Then they’ll feel a little more accomplished and more important.

 “There is no better friendship booster than the ability to listen. The ability to show genuine interest in others an admirable quality of a true friend.” – Phil Callaway

  1. Believe in yourself

Believe in yourself. It is solely about you. What you believe about your life will make it better or worse. Belief is your hidden power. Belief can become your greatest strength or your biggest weakness.

  1. Ask good questions

Charismatic people ask insightful questions which make others share things about themselves. Good questions lead to good lifestyle.

  1. Are you a giver?

Be a giver and don’t hold back on your knowledge and possession. Give to receive.

“Don’t expect something in return when you give; forget what you give but keep in mind what you receive” – Wisdom Primus

The Primus Method: _Serving With Passion_

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